Setting Boundaries

                                                

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Adapted from the KJV devotional.

"But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you"; Matthew 5:44 KJV

Easier said than done! What does it take to forgive someone and love them despite of what they have done to us?

"When Jesus says to love your enemies, does that mean allowing them to continually abuse you, maltreat you, or claim access to your life? Jesus Christ specifically gave us healthy tips on how to show God’s agape love to our enemies: to speak blessing upon them when they curse us, to pray for them that use us and persecute us, and to do a good thing for them when they are in need, even if they hate us.

We can powerfully show God’s love with healthy boundaries toward our enemies. Loving them doesn’t mean allowing them to step all over us or abuse us. (But it also means we do not retaliate)."

Sometimes saying “no” and setting boundaries is a struggle because we feel guilty of being unloving towards others. But boundaries often equal agape love and we must find the courage to set such boundaries. Agape also sets up a boundary to their negativity to us and opens a channel of our love to them. Thats the only way one can overlook hurt or insults thrown at us and continue to love.

"But, when your enemy is in need, don’t hesitate to offer help. When your enemy is troubled, offer a prayer and sympathize with their pain. And continue to speak good things about them even if they curse you and say all kinds of negative things. By doing this, it shows that you are truly God’s child! Let God’s agape love saturate you today!"

"Prayer point: Lord Jesus, thank You for showing me how to love. Thank You for Your words that have so much wisdom in application. As I grow to walk in God’s agape love, especially for my enemies, may my life bring You glory and honor. In Jesus’ name. Amen".

A SIMPLE REQUEST

                              

Starting with 12 followers 2000 years ago, Christ has a following of more than 3 billion people today. This is unprecedented growth.

So how did it happen?

The simple answer is sharing the peace. Sharing the spiritual and the physical blessings, sharing Gods word and sharing strife.

And that is our mandate even today.

Sharing God's word doesn't always mean evangelizing to people from other faiths. Sometimes, it means getting together with other believers and strengthening each other as well. 

Today, we have one simple request to make of you, our reader: participate with us and share these posts in your Christian friends circles. 

“Declare His glory among the nations, His wonders among all peoples.”

Someone, somewhere needs to hear God so please help us to spread the word as far and wide as possible.

God Bless you. 

An Accidental Human

Today we will share a short story, based on our post of yesterday, where we talked about how we, as individual humans, can carry the love from God that we have received, the sacrifice of Christ and the daily guidance of the Holy Spirit, and can make sure we get up each morning, filled with the vigor of knowing our duties for the day, as outlined by God. 

This story was shared by a person, whose age I cannot determine, and whose nationality can be that of anyone and whose name does not matter. This story was written during Covid days, reflecting the pain, failures and setbacks of those times, of all those youth, students and young workers who got stranded without jobs, food or shelter. This story is also an ode to all those Human Angels who chipped in and made sure we all got through. 

So, without further delay, here is the story, and we hope it encourages each one of our readers to be running for God when that sun comes up every day. Click anywhere in this para and read. 

The Lion & The Gazelle

 Lamentations 3:22-23

“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness".

There is a traditional story in Africa which goes like this -

"Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up, it knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve. It doesn't matter whether you're the lion or a gazelle-when the sun comes up, you'd better be running.” That is nature. Each does what they were created to do. 

For us too, every day is a new day, a new promise and a new beginning. Another chance to be what the creator wants us to be. To do what He wants us to do. Another day of hope for the brokenhearted. Another chance to live. Another chance to experience His love.

What should we do with this new day? This new beginning? Will it be the same as yesterday or will it be different?

As we go through life, we pass through three phases: youth, when you read and believe the word of God; middle age when you experience His word and the retired age when you relate it to personal experiences and share it with others as living evidence and in fact become the evidence.

Every day is a chance to build ourselves in whatever phase of life we are in. It is also a choice: to live for us solely or include God and fellow man in our day. To be a crutch for someone, to give someone life, as we build our own. Every day is a chance to evidence "agape" to the world.

Everything in Gods wide creation gives something to someone. What can we give?

A life worth living is of one who gives life to another. 

Just as God gives us hope, become hope for someone. As He gives us provisions, become a provider for someone. Become "love" for some. Become a helping hand or a listening ear to someone who needs. Or simply let someone know you are there.

We need to ask God every morning - "what would you have me do today? Who would you like me to reach out to? What would you like me to say?"

There is no time to waste another morning. When the sun come up tomorrow, let us be running to His will and instruction.

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Pastor Rajiv invites anyone who may need prayer to simply comment in the box below mentioning what they may like prayer about. You may also write to him confidentially at rshipstone@yahoo.com

Charitable Thinking:

                                                         

"Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing".

While Charity is one of the underlying principles of Christian life and Christian love, we seldom stop to "think" charitably. And if we cannot think charitably, how then can we act charitably?

Thinking charitably is like planting seeds of kindness in the garden of your mind. It’s about nurturing thoughts that bloom into actions of compassion and understanding. Imagine each charitable thought as a tiny spark that ignites a chain reaction of goodwill. In relationships, Charitable thinking encourages interpreting someone’s statements, acts or behaviors in the most rational and positive way possible. 

When we think charitably: We see the world through a lens of empathy, understanding that everyone has their struggles. We do not judge. We do NOT build our castle by digging someone's grave! 

We find joy in lifting others up, not bringing them down. Charitable thinking fosters productive dialogue, encourages understanding, and helps us form stronger relationships.

Some easy ways to develop charitable thought are: 

1. Avoid Negativity: Instead of attributing negative qualities to someone’s argument, statement or act, seek a coherent and reasonable understanding. This can be done by -

2. Exercise Empathy: Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Try to understand their situation and feelings without judgment.

2. Journalize Gratitude: Write down things you’re grateful for every day. This can shift your focus from what you lack to the abundance you have.

3. Practice Generosity: Share what you have, whether it’s time, resources, or skills, with those who might benefit from them.

Charitable thinking isn’t just about grand gestures; it’s about the small, everyday choices that add warmth to the world.

In Case You Missed: Karma or Grace?

Karma or Grace

The concept of Karma has become a byword in the lives of people today. Knowingly or unknowingly, directly or indirectly, we start believing in it. 

One of our more popular posts from the past clears the air on Karma and grace. You can read it HERE

https://thisweekwithjesus.blogspot.com/2023/09/karma-or-grace.html

The Blame Game

3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye".

In Matthew 7:3–5, Jesus reminded us not to be hypocrites and blame others but look at our own faults and limitations first. 

It is in our human nature not to accept blame for something gone wrong and pass it on to someone else. Adam did it; Eve did it; Moses did it; Aaron did it ( Exodus 32:1-8); Saul did it; and, we do it all the time. Believe it or not, sometimes we even blame God! Why did God allow this to happen, is a question many have asked, including from Jesus' time (John 11, 37-38). Another favorite these days is: "God, I tried to wait but you’re not moving fast enough so I guess I’ll have to do it myself.” So, when we act, or fail to act according to God’s will and it doesn’t work out, it’s God’s fault. A lot of people, if not all, when facing some misfortune or loss, say "It's God's will". How soon we forget Jeremiah 29:11! (“'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. '”). Maybe one could simply say - "Yes, this has happened, but God will see me through in His grace and in His time". 

The reality is we’re to blame if we don’t seek God’s direction or accept God’s timing.

Self-righteousness can blind us to our own flaws while we amplify the flaws of other people or a situation. It also blinds us to any other will but our own. 

The problem is when we face the Lord who and what will we blame?

Remember, shifting the blame does not shift the consequences. 

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