Words

Question: Do your words stir up discord or bring peace?

Scripture: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” — Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)

Fact: "Violent language often is as deadly as a lethal weapon.”

Every word we speak carries weight. It can either be a spark that ignites conflict or a balm that brings healing. In moments of tension, our instinct may be to defend, correct, or retaliate—but Scripture calls us to something higher: peace.

Ask yourself: Do my words stir up discord or bring peace? Do they reflect frustration or faith? Judgment or gentleness?

In the words of Tom Hanks in Life, Hope and Truth - "When I was a little boy, my mother taught me: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” I’ve thought about that many times, but it just isn’t true. As well-intentioned as the statement may be, words do hurt!

Words are incredibly potent. Wise King Solomon knew that, writing, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). What we choose to say really does matter!

Consider the power of words of hatred and defiance on a placard being carried by a protester. Consider the impact of words of anger and venom being shouted through a megaphone to a riled-up crowd. Consider the words of disrespect and attack said by one political leader about another.

Or, conversely, consider the words of comfort from a friend to one in need. Consider the words that encourage someone trying to master a new skill. Consider the impact of words of love and affection from a spouse or family member as when one is struggling with a trial.

Consider even the importance of correction that is given out of love and concern and with an eye toward helping us improve. Solomon also wrote, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful” (Proverbs 27:6).

It seems to be the norm today for many to say whatever they think or feel—uncensored and without much thought for how it may impact others. Social media platforms are used to attack, malign and bully almost with impunity. No dignity. No respect. Only using words as if they were arrows or bullets.

It is all too common for words to be used with devastating effect within families. Parents disparage and ridicule their children. Children say hurtful and angry things to parents, sometimes calling them vile names. Husbands and wives get angry with each other, and with their words they slice and dice like a wood chipper, spitting their mate out the other side.

Sometimes the impact of hateful or hurtful words will echo in the mind for decades, long after the speaker may have forgotten about it.

Conversely, we may also find that gentle and kind words of encouragement can buoy the heart and mind for decades, and once again, long after the speaker may have entirely forgotten them.

How have you used your words in the past? How do you use your words today? No one is perfect with his or her words (James 3:8), but we can always learn to do better".

Jesus didn’t just speak truth—He spoke it with grace. His words restored dignity, calmed storms, and invited the broken to belong. As His followers, we’re called to do the same.

You can study more about this in our online article “Sticks and Stones: 6 Ways to Improve Your Words.”